Some think whom sounds stuffy and pretentious.
When did proper grammar become stuffy? I think that’s an excuse made by people who don’t know the difference.
Does anyone criticize Ernest Hemingway for using whom in the title of his famous novel For Whom The Bell Tolls?
Here are four guidelines to help you recognize whether to use who or whom:
- Who is the doer of the action.
Who was driving the car?
He was critical of people who didn’t support his decision.
The winner, no matter who she is, will wear the crown for a year.
- Whom is the object, the person acted on, and it often is preceded by a preposition (at, in, for, from, of, to, with).
Did you speak to her?
To whom did you speak?
Who gave you the check?
From whom did you get the check?
Did you take a walk with her?
With whom did you take a walk?
- Consider these substitutions as shortcuts to helping you make the right choice:
he, she, they (subjects) = who
him, her, them (objects) = whom
whomwas driving the car?
He was driving the car.
who/ whom to dinner?
You invited her to dinner.
who/ whom were members of the audience applauding?
Members of the audience were applauding for them.
4. If you count “for whom the bell tolls” a mnemonic device, you’ll find it not only the title of an Ernest Hemingway novel; it’s also a line in this poem (John Donne), and the theme of this song (Metallica). All serve as memorable examples to show us for whom the bell tolls, not for who the bell tolls.
I’ll close with this link to former blog about who: whether to use who or which.
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